Yesterday at work one of my favorite patients came in. He's a 76 year old man. He's always really nice to me and tells me funny stories of his past, and I'm always really nice to him and make him coffee and whatnot. He brought his wife in and she went back to the op to get worked on he went and sat in the waiting area. I brought his coffee out to him and as I handed it to him he said, "Can I ask you something?" I said sure and he replied, "You look really good in those trousers....you fill them out nicely" I was in shock! He asked if he had embarrased me and I said a little. I started to walk back to my desk when he added, "Do you spray them on?" I didnt know what to say so I just walked away and said nothing.
Now if this was a guy my age or even a little older I would have told him how inappropriate he was being but how do you say that to someone who could be my grandpa? When I told Russ the story he just laughed and said "that's funny." I was like it's not funny its disturbing!
Brene Brown on Boundaries & Empathy
2 years ago